看大家对启发式教育蛮感兴趣，去搜索了一下‘启发式沟通‘，无奈就找到这么一段：
http://zhidao.baidu.com/question/30806949.html?fr=qrl
学会设计启发式问题
很多家长对于沟通问题的认识往往处于一个误区，就是认为只要家长说的话孩子听了，这就是沟通。家长由于他们成长年代的各种因素的限制，使得他们教育自己孩子的语言和思维是很贫乏的。比如有个孩子抱怨说自己的母亲一天就和自己说六句话：早晨说“快点快点，要不就上学迟到了”；第二句是“早餐怎么也得吃点，要不上午的课顶不住”，第三句是“过马路要小心，看着点车”，第四句是“到了学校你千万努力”，第五句是“中午学校的饭不太好吃，但你正在长身体，一定要多吃点”；第六句“放学回家先写作业，别着急看电视”。这样日复一日的说，作为孩子自然而然的会感到厌烦，结果反倒事与愿违。所以作为家长应该注意和孩子沟通的方式方法，学会设计问题，用问话的方式来和孩子沟通，尽量不要用陈述句，而要尽可能的让孩子说。“问”在今天是一种高级的交流形式，父母的提问也应该是具有很强的技巧性的，家长在这方面应该加强。
倒是有篇英文的还有点用处，放在这里，感兴趣的慢慢读读吧：
Heuristic conversation
Heuristic conversation represents a dialog between professor and student. It is build basing on a set of provocative questions that are meant to stir up student's curiosity. Through this way it is assimilated information and it is transformed in knowledge.
One of education concepts says that question is the beginning of cognition. The true cognition is not in answering the question but in asking more questions. At the same time provided answers to questions generate more questions – it is a chain reaction. In this way the importance of questions in educational process is always studied.
Heuristic conversation requires a curious mind and students that need answers to their questions and are ready at their turn to ask more. As it is impossible this method fits better in cases when you can gather a contingent of interested students: conferences; interest groups, etc.
Used questions should be 'open questions' (those which the answer is not 'yes' or 'no'). Questions should make students think independently and avoid standard answers. Also it is very important that answers to be augmented.
Questions it is what helps people get out of the limits of their minds and find more answers and explanations. The destination of these brain exercises is 'want to know'. That's why little children ask so many questions, and that's why these questions should be answered honestly and direct.
Question contains a part of the answer; all it is needed to be done is to find the path. Also the way a question is posed can indicate or influence a certain answer.
Question is considered to be correctly posted in following cases:
- the questioned problem has sense and is real;
- the interrogated person can offer logical answers;
- concreteness and uniqueness of the question reveals something new;
Questions should be of different categories:
- Reproductive: What? Where? When?
- Hypothetic: What if? But…?
- Evaluative: What is better (correct, beautiful) than…?
Also don't forget to teach children, students asking questions. Sometimes it is more important to ask questions than to answer them!
为了避免枯燥，来练习一下先： “快点快点，要不就上学迟到了”
1。上学迟到是什么意思呢？
2。上学迟到会发生什么呢？
3。有没有比上学迟到更好的事情呢？
4。上学不迟到有什么好处呢？
5。有没有比上学不迟到更好的事情呢？
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