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[音乐] 俞星的博客:我的名片--The space in between --ZT(更新在6楼)

俞星的博客:我的名片--The space in between --ZT(更新在6楼)

厌琴的聪明孩子
http://blog.sina.com.cn/s/blog_60a7abf90100db6b.html
朋友的孩子今年小一,被老师鼓励考六级钢琴。然而,孩子的厌琴态度却消极到了极点,每次学琴回家的路上就不断抱怨,不想学了。

闻此消息,深感诧异。因为据我所知,这个孩子聪明伶俐,四肢协调,能力过人。他两岁能踩两轮脚踏车,四岁开始学琴、打鼓,两门乐器在学前均轻松考出四级。七岁考六级是有些出人意料,但对于一个智能超常的小孩,这也不是太了不起的壮举,因为六级曲目的音乐内容还是蛮天真的。

一天,朋友带孩子到家里来玩,顺便让我诊断一下其厌琴症结所在。刚刚还兴高采烈打着Uno的小男孩,一听要弹琴,马上垂头丧气。老不情愿地拖着身子坐上琴凳,又嘟囔着说没带书,没东西弹。问他以前弹过的曲子呢?说都忘了。现在正在准备的曲子呢?说还没弹出来。最后总算弹了弹最简单的C大调音阶,竟然指法全错。不想再为难孩子,放了他。问妈妈,怎样在准备应考?妈妈说,老师介绍了一位陪练,是老师考出十级的学生的妈妈,陪练很有经验,可以保证把老师上课的要求全部落实到平日练习当中,考出六级应该是没有问题。

作为朋友,我同情孩子的妈妈。本想借助学琴,把自己才智、精力都超人的孩子那旺盛的精力消耗到开发大脑、陶冶情操的活动中,却被孩子在学琴初期表现出来的天分所误导,最终采取了拔苗助长的方式,为了一个所谓的“挑战”和“荣誉”,不知不觉地把孩子逼到了厌琴的死角。

作为老师,我同情孩子。我清楚地看到他因为对眼前的任务因不理解而产生的迷惑和挫败感;看到他在不让妈妈失望和不让自己受罪的矛盾中的挣扎。作为孩子,他不明白每日同陪练妈妈一起艰苦劳作的目的是什么,也不知道为什么要借一个大人的头脑来操作他本来就很灵巧的双手。

考级是结果,不是目的。为什么不能让一个天份不差的孩子开开心心地学,从从容容地考,循序渐进地以自己的努力和进步为荣,充分地享受自己用汗水换来的成果呢?

俞星

stellapianosg@hotmail.com

[ 本帖最后由 甜甜妈咪 于 2009-7-10 14:08 编辑 ].

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考级是结果,不是目的。为什么不能让一个天份不差的孩子开开心心地学,从从容容地考,循序渐进地以自己的努力和进步为荣,充分地享受自己用汗水换来的成果呢?

------------十分赞同这句话,我家也有个厌琴的孩子,让我很是困惑。

我自问绝对不以考级为目的,至今也没有考过级,学了半年现在才学到三级。老师多次说孩子天份还不错有潜力可挖,要给她加课,但我一直没有同意,也不同意上课太多内容,甚至每级还要求老师加了巩固课,主要就是是想孩子学得轻松一点扎实一点,不要让她感觉应付不过来而失去信心。

就这样,她每天一小时的练琴时间都不能保证,不情不愿地坐上琴凳,嘴里还嘟嘟囔囔,一边练一边不停下来喝水上厕所,如果哪天有事不能练那小人家简直如释重负——就算这样,她给老师回课的时候,一般比在家练的时候弹得好,情绪饱满仪态标准曲调连贯(指法还是经常有问题的)。我们也从来不勉强她在家里有客人啊什么时候来表演,只有她自己有表演欲的时候就让她弹。

我也数次检讨自己的态度,有时候觉得她是八岁的孩子了,道理轻声细语讲了那么多次,总不能每次都要我哄着弹吧,所以难免也有暴躁冲她发火的时候——我也不知道怎么才能让她心甘情愿的爱上弹琴,问过好多家长好象还真没有那自觉练琴真正自己爱弹的。

现在唯一让她不能放弃的理由,是学琴之初就是她自己选择的,说好了不能半途而废的。.

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回复 2#漫町 的帖子

孩子学琴的过程,是对家长耐心和创造力的挑战!自从咱家宝贝开始学琴,我的脾气和耐性不知好了多少倍!过去可能让我一怒而起的事情,我忍,我忍,我再忍,就是不想让孩子在心里把“弹琴”与“挨骂”“哭”划上等号。一段时间下来,发现其实让孩子“就范”的方法还真不少呢!.

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回复 3#甜甜妈咪 的帖子

佩服佩服!俺这忍功还远没有修到家啊!

在心里把“弹琴”与“挨骂”“哭”划上等号——这是我女儿嘀咕的话的一部分,我有时候会跟她做检讨,但有时候想着这么大了不可能让我把好话重复一百遍吧!

其实让孩子“就范”的方法还真不少呢——请问甜甜宝贝多大呢?介绍几招来学习一下啊!.

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回复 4#漫町 的帖子

惭愧!其实就是一个字“忍”,呵呵,每次要爆发的时候,摒牢,然后换个说法,轻言细语,实在不行,换个臭脸,但不发脾气,孩子往往会有所改变,如果实在还不行------

只好暂停了!.

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我的名片--The space in between(2009-07-09 14:58:56)标签:教育   
On her name card she is presented as such: BA Music Education—Shanghai Normal University, space, Dip Piano Performance—ABRSM, space, MA Music Performance—Kingston University, UK.



These are the three concise phrases to summarize my 20 years of relationship with music (which in fact illegitimately started way earlier without legal documentation) that would comfortably suffice for anyone looking for a decent private tutor or music lecturer. Born in a family with a long history of being prone to this infection of Dionysus (noteworthy victims: my aunt, violinist 俞丽拿,who incarnated the butterfly love tragedy into her instrument, and her son, my dear cousin 李坚,the one and only true pianist in the whole world of my entire childhood plus adolescence ), I have, on the other hand, found myself entangled in a constant effort of capturing this most intangible and capricious form of art and most of all, of sharing the product of such with people, particularly my younger audience. My most intimate experience with music extends far beyond those hours spent in lectures. It is through my cross-border traveling, communicating, learning and self-reflecting during these past years in three vastly different countries that I have achieved the most critical discovery of my value as a musician and the potential contribution which I, as an educator and performer, could make to those around me and farther away.



I had no sooner gained my Bachelor’s than started my teaching career. During my years as a student, I could always prepare “just the right amount” for my own recitals and examinations as any smart kids would do at college. On the contrary, it is always essential for an educator to have his bucket filled even if it is but one drop that he has to give. To me, the urge of refilling my bucket did not occur, as most would think, some time into my teaching career, but at the very beginning of it. It was after teaching my self-designed music appreciation course to high school students not specializing in music, when I realized that I, as a teacher, could no longer rely on what my BA in Music Education had given me, despite the fact that my existing knowledge was more than enough for the eager students who were just starting to distinguish between a Baroque piece and a classical one. It was a deeper perception of music as a form of inspiration for the general population, which nobody could feel but myself, that I thought was lacking, and it was this conviction that had driven me to keep going, to Singapore, and then to England, to pursue a higher level of learning that would better qualify me as one who could not only make people know music, but also love it.



And with what I have learnt, I move on to the most painstaking but also the most gratifying process in music-education—the process of enabling my students to think and perceive musically. It is extremely disheartening to see that the disproportionate emphasis on performing techniques and militant training which are prent in today’s piano lessons have inevitably bred either a mechanical performing style or an irreversible hatred towards music. I can hardly picture a child being able to appreciate the beauty in the Bohemian-styled, rhythmically fluidly opening of Chopin’s Op. 64 No. 1, while trembling in fear of the needles pointing at his wrist to prevent it from falling lower than it should, or a child being able to recognize the contribution of major-minor contrast to For Elise’s dynamics when all his tutor cares is if he can fling his fingers as high as a Can-Can dancer her legs. My experiences of teaching a diverse student body have convinced me that it is much easier for a student genuinely fond of music to voluntarily adopt the appropriate techniques than for one rigidly trained for the techniques to later develop a genuine loving. For me, it is my job to first give them the most fundamental feel of music, and with that, the learning of techniques will come with greater ease.



Music becomes an even more powerful tool when served with a more specific purpose to a larger audience. The most recent years witnessed a delightful series of some of my students’ original concerts and musical productions of which I was the organizer and instructor. For one who had hardly left the realm of a classroom or lecture hall, it was a time of breakout, of leaving her comfort zone, of going the extra miles to convince people of the joy of music. Just like a missionary, I have found, through the tireless efforts of liaison and communication, a more effective medium through which music as an abstract form of art can be made more popular and welcomed to the general public. This has certainly given me a new direction in my musical career.



One of the things I am most frequently told by my students has been: “You enlighten.” While I take it more as an expectation for myself than an achievement, I undoubtedly take greater pleasure in the moments of seeing my students and audience being transformed to people with a more optimistic and holistic view of life by way of music. And while under most circumstances it will still be those three phrases on my name card which will eventually matter, to me, it is the spaces in between..

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