zhu_yan1 2010-2-6 12:59
梁继璋先生给儿子的一封信
梁继璋先生是香港一位名电台节目主持人，也是一位儿童心理学导师，这是梁继璋写给儿子的信，但看后, 我觉得不只给儿子, 其实可以适合所有人看!
我儿：
写这份备忘录给你，基于三个原则：人生福祸无常，谁也不知可以活多久，有一些事情还是早一点说好；我是你的父亲，我不跟你说，没有人会跟你说；这备忘录里记载的，都是我经过惨痛失败得回来的体验，可以为你的成长省回不少冤枉路。
以下，便是你在人生中要好好记住的事：
（一）对你不好的人，你不要太介意，在你一生中，没有人有义务要对你好，除了我和你妈妈。至于那些对你好的人，你除了要珍惜、感恩外，也要多防备一点，因为，每个人做每件事，总有一个原因，他对你好，未必真的是喜欢你，请你必须搞清楚，而不必太快将对方看作真朋友。
（二）没有人是不可代替的，没有东西是必须拥有的。看透了这一点，将来你身边的人不再要你，或许你失去了世间的最爱时，也应该明白，这并不是什么大不了的事。
（三）生命是短暂的，今日你还在浪费着生命，明日会发觉生命已远离你了。因此，愈早珍惜生命，你享受生命的日子也愈多，与其盼望长寿，倒不如早点享受。
（四）世界上并没有最爱这回事，爱情只是一种霎时的感觉，而这感觉绝对会随时日、心境而改变。如果你的所谓最爱离开你，请耐心地等候，让时日慢慢冲洗，让心灵慢慢沉淀，你的苦就会慢慢淡化。不要过分憧憬爱情的美，不要过分夸大失恋的悲。
（五）虽然，很多有成就的人士都没有受过很多教育，但并不等于不用功读书，就一定可以成功。你学到的知识，就是你拥有的武器。人可以白手起家，但不可以手无寸铁，切记！
（六）我不会要求你供养我下半辈子，同样地我也不会供养你的下半辈子，当你长大到可以独立的时候，我的责任已经完结。以后，你要坐巴士还是奔驰，吃鱼翅还是粉丝，都要自己负责。
（七）你可以要求自己守信，但不能要求别人守信，你可以要求自己对人好，但不能期待人家对你好。你怎样对人，并不代表人家就会怎样对你，如果看不透这一点，你只会徒添不必要的烦恼。
（八）我买了十多年六合彩，还是一穷二白，连三等奖也没有中，这证明人要发达，还是要努力工作才可以，世界上并没有免费午餐。
（九）亲人只有一次的缘分，无论这辈子我和你会相处多久，也请好好珍惜共聚的时光，下辈子，无论爱与不爱，都不会再见。
梁先生说出了家长的期盼和担忧，愿做人儿女的能再三思量！.
艺非爸爸 2010-2-6 17:18
写得深入人心，入木三分！意蕴深远和耐思！谢谢转载！.
文心 2010-2-7 17:51
好！谢谢
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Michael Leung, a famous TV Host and MC/DJ in Hong Kong, is also a child psychotherapist.
The a letter that he had for his son is quite moving. It would not only provide a guideline for children, but also benefit for all ages.
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My Son,
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I’m writing this list based on three fundamentals:
1. Life is unpredictable. No one knows how long we’re going to live, so some things are better said earlier than later.
2. I’m your father. I’d be the only one to tell you these things.
3. Everything on this list came from my own experience. I learnt them the hard way, and hopefully that’ll save some unnecessary steps in your life.
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Below are the things you need to remember at all times in your life:
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1. To people who are unkind to you, don’t sweat it. Through your lifetime, no one is obligated to be nice to you, besides your mom and me.
As for the people who are kind to you, treasure them, be grateful, but at the same time, be extra cautious. Everyone does everything for a reason. When someone is nice to you, it doesn’t mean they like you. You need to be able to see through the surface, instead of making them your true friends immediately.
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2. No one is irreplaceable, and nothing is indispensable. With that in mind, even when you lose the people or things that you love and treasure the most in the future, you would understand that it’s not that big of a deal.
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3. Life is short. While you’re wasting it today, you’ll realize you’re at the end of it tomorrow. So the earlier you start treasure your life, the earlier you can enjoy it. Instead of hoping for longevity, start enjoying life early.
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4. The thing called “The Best Love”, or “The One”, doesn’t exist. Love is a feeling of moments. It will definitely alter and decrease over time and moods. If your so-called “Best Love” left you, please be patient and let time heal your wounds. Through time, your heart will come to peace and your pain will ease. Don’t over expect the beauty of Love, nor over exaggerate the pain when you lose it.
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5. Although a lot of successful people received high education, you might not be successful if you don't study hard. The knowledge you consume will become your weapon. You can start from nothing to your name, but you can go nowhere if you have nothing in your hands. Never forget that!
6. I don’t expect you to support me for rest of my life, so I’m not going to do the same for you either. When you’re grown enough to be independent, it will be the end of my responsibilities to you. From that point, it’s completely your own responsibilities and decisions, whether to take the bus or drive a Benz, or whether to eat shark fins or rice noodle.
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7. You can require yourself to be accountable to others, but don’t expect accountability from others to you. You can require yourself to be nice to other, but don’t expect the same from others to you. However you decide to treat others, them won’t necessary do the same in return. You must be clear on this, or you’ll just torture yourself unnecessarily.
8. I’ve been buying the Lotto for almost twenty years, but still poor. I had never got the third place even once. So remember, you have to work hard to be successful. There’s no free lunch in the world.
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9. You got your family by faith, and it happens only once. Please treasure every moment we spend together, because we don’t know how long it will last. After this lifetime, we won’t see each other anymore.
Your Father
Liang Jizhang
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josh妈 2010-2-8 10:25
写的真好！简单明了，含义深刻，打出来给孩子看看，谢谢！.
beibeimama 2010-2-10 08:52
昨天给上大班的儿子念了，感觉他还不大明白。可能还太小了，不能理解真正的意思。.
妈妈的心 2010-2-12 20:24
这篇文章在《读者》2010-4中有的。但孩子没有一定的生活经历是无法体会父母的这番苦心的。
我们觉得好，是因为我们都被生活教育过，才能深深体会到这些道理有多么地朴实与深刻！.
redgreen 2010-2-21 14:11
真是人情练达的过来人写出的金玉良言!
收藏,谢谢!.
小帅@妈妈 2010-2-23 14:09
言简意赅，这就是为人父母想对自己孩子说的心里话，已经收藏，择日给小儿看。赞！.